Self-harm and teenagers
There are a number of things that you can try to help a self-harming teenager. To learn more about teenage self-harming behaviour, explore this guide by psychologist Nasalifya Namwinga on self-harm and teens.
Otherwise, see below for some ideas on what you can do to help your teenager find other coping skills.
Frequently asked questions about self-harm and teenagers
Self-harm is often a way for teens to cope with overwhelming emotions, stress, or difficult situations they're facing. It's important to understand that it doesn't always mean they want to end their life, but it's definitely a sign they're struggling and need support. As a parent, listening without judgement and letting them know you're there for them can make a real difference. Learn more about self-harm in teenagers.
Yes, while it’s important to seek professional support for your teen who is self-harming, there are several free services that offer confidential support by phone or online chat with trained counsellors:
Kids Helpline (1800 55 1800)
Lifeline (13 11 14)
headspace (1800 650 890)
13YARN (13 92 76)
These can be particularly helpful if your teen isn't ready to talk face-to-face just yet.
There are community and mental health organisations that run peer support groups specifically for young people dealing with self-harm. These groups can provide a valuable connection with others who truly understand what they're experiencing. You can start by talking to your GP or a counsellor in your local area. Read more about help services for self-harm.
Social media can have both positive and negative effects when it comes to self-harm. While it can sometimes expose teens to harmful content or trigger difficult feelings, it can also be a valuable space where young people find genuine connection, support, and resources. The key is helping your teen develop healthy boundaries around their social media use and having regular check-ins about what they're seeing and how it's making them feel. To learn more, explore these resources on social media and teens.
Self-harm is common among teenagers, particularly during times of significant stress, emotional upheaval, or major life transitions. Young people may turn to it as a way to manage intense feelings when they don't yet have positive coping strategies in place. If you notice warning signs, it's crucial to approach your teen with compassion rather than panic, and gently encourage them to reach out for professional support from someone they trust. Hear more from an expert on self-harm and teens.
This really depends on how the topic is portrayed and your teen's situation. Some films can raise important awareness and help start meaningful conversations about mental health, while others might be triggering or inadvertently glamorise self-harm behaviours. If your teen is watching this kind of content, consider watching it together and having open, non-judgmental discussions afterwards about what you've both seen and how it relates to real-life support and recovery. Read a teen’s story about self-harm to understand how it impacted them.